I read a lot of blogs that seem to have all the answers.
This is not one of those blogs.
Maybe if it were, I’d have a wider audience. I’d have hundreds of followers and scores of “Likes” on Facebook.
But me? I’ve just got a whole lot of questions.
My latest question is about committing to things. When should I? When shouldn’t I? When do I say yes and when do I say no?
Maybe you’ve heard of the movie Yes Man. It’s an older flick, but I saw it just a few months ago. In it, Jim Carrey plays a guy who never has any adventure and always says no to anything new. As a result, his girlfriend dumps him, his friends become exasperated with him, and he leads a terribly boring life. He goes to this seminar about saying yes to absolutely everything. Everything. And it’s pretty wacky, but it ends up changing his life for the better. He has fun. He tries new things. He goes on adventures. And eventually he learns that saying yes to everything isn’t the answer either, but he realizes that while saying no is sometimes necessary, saying yes can be great.
I wish I could get that lesson figured out in a sweet little two-hour movie, replete with fun music, lovely scenery, and a Vespa.
It seems a little harder for me.
How often should I say yes? How much time to I take away from my primary responsibilities — work and home — in order to do something else? How much should I invest into broken systems I don’t believe in (there are two major ones with which I’m currently affiliated) in order to improve them? How do I know when something will be a fun, new experience, and when it will be a time-eater that takes way too much preparation and planning to make it worth it?
I know it’s not all about me. I want to have an impact on my community… but not at the expense of my mental and emotional health.
So, what’s the answer? I sure don’t know yet.
If you find one of those have-all-the-answers bloggers, send them here. Maybe they can hand me an easy solution, tied up in a bow.